Christina is outraged by my comments from my previous post about Asian women looking for different attributes in men than white women. She wrote:
WTF! Really, let me state that again. WTF! The only women that don't want men who are educated, introverted, and have stable careers are women that are a) uneducated, b) wildly unpredictable and c) poor.
While obviously my points a, b and c are generalizations, your comment about white women was the most ignorant I've seen in ages.
Well first of all, I agree that being educated is generally always a plus. But how much of a plus? For Asian women, it may be a plus three, but for white women only a plus one.
Being introverted isn’t considered a good quality in the United States. One presumes that like most psychological characteristics, introversion/extroversion is distributed along a bell curve. The ideal place to be in the United States would be perhaps a half to a whole standard deviation from the median on the extroverted side.
If you read a lot of personal ads at online dating sites, you’ll see that people say they are “outgoing” quite a bit, because it’s a desired characteristic.
The average Asian is more introverted than the average Caucasian. So Asian women are more used to being around introverted people because their families are more introverted, and they are more introverted themselves so they would be more comfortable with someone similarly introverted.
And finally we get to the issue of a “stable career.” I’m not sure exactly what that means, but it’s a phrase that I see used a lot and I mimicked it. Stable seems to mean safe but boring. IT is a safe career, but considered very boring. I suspect that a lot of white women see a job in IT as a minus.
I think that one or two generations ago, American women desired men who would be good providers and fathers, but today physical attractiveness and an exciting personality have become ascendant. Of course, physical attractiveness is what men always wanted in women, so I guess women have become more like men.