White men, black women

I get the feeling that some who read my previous posts about Asian women have the idea that I prefer Asian women over other races. This is not the case at all.

I don't find the Asian face attractive compared to the white face. And Asian women are nearly all ectomorphic--skinny with no shape to their behinds, no breasts. There are some men who like skinny women, and maybe such men are the ones who like Asian women. But not me.

Black women have the best bodies--voluptuous with nice muscle tone. There are, unfortunately, a higher percentage of black women who have too much meat on their bones for my tastes, but the rest of black women have fabulous figures.

Most black women in the United States are part Caucasian. I believe that the typical American black is 25% Caucasian. So most American blacks, and especially the lighter skinned ones, are actually a mixture of the two races and not pure African. The blending of two races usually creates better looking offspring.

You see plenty of couples where the man is black and the woman is white (and black men seem to go for blondes who are somewhat bigger than the average white woman), but you seldom see couples where the man is white and the woman is black. Why is this? It's hard to believe that I'm the only white man who appreciates the beauty of a black woman, so it must be that black women don't care for white men.

Comments

[mikeca]

Many years ago, when I was in college, the problem was mostly cultural.

Black men usually flattered women much more than white men. White women liked the flattery from Black men, so they sometimes dated them. On the other hand Black women were not impressed with white men, because they were use to being flattered more, and white men didn’t do that as much.

[Wendy]

I've seen black women with white men. But many, many more white women who don't seem to mind having a black partner. Ever heard that phrase, "once you go black you never go back?" It makes me snicker everytime.

Btw, all the generalizations about different races are tiresome and quite frustrating. Refer to the comment on More about Asian and white women, there's a quote about generalizations that expresses a very good point. Honestly, a lot of Asian girls who are growing up in this generation ARE big enough to fill the average cup size for a breast, Asian girls are capable of speaking up (as you have seen probably with the comments from others on your blog) and we can think out of the box and date men who aren't white, educated, and have IT jobs. I happen to think that my mother is a scary control freak, but you know, I'm still going to give other Asian mothers the chance to redeem themselves when I encounter them.

-From a girl who's "thick as cornbread", with a booty to match

[Anti-Anonymous]

a lot of Asian girls who are growing up in this generation ARE big enough to fill the average cup size for a breast

Cup sizes of bra sales in Asian lands tell a different story.

(Incedentially, the generalization about large chested Swedish women is a myth. Among European populations, the average Swedish woman has a smaller than average cup size. My guess is that this fantasy gained currency in the 60s when Sweden had a porn industry that was more robust than most of the rest of the West at the time.)

all the generalizations about different races are tiresome and quite frustrating.

Obscurantist nominalism about different races can also be tiresome and frustrating.

[john jansen]

as a young fellow in the 60s i argued that the racial problem in states would not be solved until intermarriage became widespread and commomplace.i argued that it should be viewed as america's manifest destiny for the current day.an interesting aside.....i worked in the trading room of a large financial organization for many yrs.there was a stunningly attractive young black woman there who set aflutter the hearts of many young fellows.(one of my colleagues quipped that any single fellow between 25 and 35 who was not actively pursuing her was latently homosexual.)anyway,if you had taken a poll of the males in the room she would have won overwhelmingly as the most attractive female in the room. what is the point of all this ,you ask.the point ,and some may say it is trite,is that 40yrs ago there is no way in the world that any black woman could ever be considered the most attractive by any group of white men. black had not yet become beautiful. so i view this as manifestation of social progress on one very small front. i dont have time to proof read so i apologize for any and all typos.jjj

[Karen]

I've seen black women with white men. But many, many more white women who don't seem to mind having a black partner. Ever heard that phrase, "once you go black you never go back?" It makes me snicker everytime.

Wendy, as an Asian woman who's dated a black man, I can relate to the stereotype that generates that phrase. Despite the un-disappointing experience it was, after the black guy I went back to dating white guys again. :) I don't really have an explanation for that.

Anti-Anonymous: I inferred that Wendy was referring to North-American Asian breasts. (Were you, Wendy?) Where there's an overall higher level of nutrition and body-fat content.

Mikeca: no kidding. I get more compliments when I visit a caribbean country like Jamaica for a week than I do in a whole year, living in North America. I'm sure part of it has to do with simply approaching someone rather than admiring from afar.

[Wendy]

Right. Karen, Asian girls in North America. But the average chest size has actually gone up from 34B to 36C because of...you guessed it..breast implants. But how is that possible if I also read that about 60% of women in America have A or B cups? There must some big breasts out there!

I just found that out after I made that comment. That makes it a lot harder for women to fill the average cup!

Black men being more complimentary has its flip side too--they don't just compliment or flatter 1 woman at a time, necessarily.

[Wendy]

I guess you're one woman who went back. :) I used to date white men a lot too, so if my bf and I were to break up, I'm actually not sure who I'd end up dating again...like I said, maybe a Chinese man. lol

[Karen]

Wendy - I hear you. For the novelty. ;)

[Dan Schneider]

It's not a sexual thing but a cultural thing. Black men are farther down the totem pole than black women, so many black men I've known prefer to 'trade up' for a white woman- even if it means Roseanne Barr over Halle Berry. It's perverse, but it's not a sexual thing per se, in most cases. Many black women resent this, esp. those who've lost lovers to white women. I worked with a number of white women who had black beaus, and the hate from black women was palpable.
White men, howeverm see black women as 'trading down'- and only go for black women who are 'successful- i.e.- college educated and careerists.
Of course, this is a generalization, nonetheles true. Consequently, you are more likely to see a good looking black man with an ugly and/or obese white woman while a white man, if with a black woman, will usually have a slim, buppy type on his arm.
Again, this is a broad statement, but in the main true. It also bespeaks far more than mere sexual attraction, and although it's perhaps sexist to say I recall an old saying growing up, and I grew up in a poor multicultural area: 'It don't matter the color of the skin, just what shape it's in.' DAN

[Anti-Anonymous]

Karen:

I inferred that Wendy was referring to North-American Asian breasts. (Were you, Wendy?) Where there's an overall higher level of nutrition and body-fat content.

Wendy:

Right. Karen, Asian girls in North America. But the average chest size has actually gone up from 34B to 36C because of...you guessed it..breast implants

I will bet either one of you $1,000 that at no point in the next 30 years will the cup size of the average Northeast Asian-American female be larger than the cup size of the average Caucasian-American female or the average Black-American female.

[sort of black]

i agree. asian women are small, sometimes. but it seems to me that white women are getting frustrated with the growing numbers of white men with asian females. some white men dont approach black women because of fear of rejecition.

[Wendy]

You really like betting. We'll see. Fat tissue is fat tissue and we're all mostly living on the same diet in America. I have seen my own share of Asian-American women with large breasts.

[Lux Tromhorn]

It's the same all over people. We have that here with the Aborigines. I was married to a half-Aborigine many years ago and I agree with Dan Schneider's assessment. My wife was college educated, but most black-white marriages here are black male-white female too, and from lower incomes.

[Anti-Anonymous]

You really like betting

Offering a bet is a way of proving a negative.

[susan]

man, you keep digging yourself into a deeper hole with these posts. but i guess you can't make everyone happy all the time.

i'm an asian female and i have no idea whether white women are upset about the asian girl/white guy dating. it's quite common these days and none of my white girlfriends ever said anything about it.

i think it's just a matter of preference. majority of the guys i've dated post college have been white but it doesn't mean that i only exclusively want to date white guys. it just happens to have become a preference now.
and as far as asian women having no breasts of curves, i think that's false b/c several of the asian women i know have them.

and what's with the generalization that asian women go for successful men while white women don't. trust me, *ALL* women are generally attracted to successful/responsible men (whatever field it might be in). Only maybe women who like drama might desire otherwise.

[HC]

About 99% of black women are not attractive to me. I think the same can be said for most non-black men.

[queen-nile]

NO self-respecting, beautiful, Black woman dates a white man. Only self-hating sellouts.

[connie]

In 2005, people like who they like. These stereotypes are nothing more than what a person percieve a race is or is not. One does not have to make generalizations and comparisons to validate their likes and dislikes. It is a personal choice. So can you really give an opinion on this based on stereotypes? You don't have to date the fat ones? You don't have to date the skinny ones? You like who you like. And no one can date outside of their race, and make generalizations on that whole race? Isn't that an oxymoron?

[connie]

And for the person who stated "No self-respecting black women would date a white man". That is your opinion, and bigotry not mine. Because someone said most African-Americans are interracially mixed. I have a history of white heritage, that started back in the 1920's, some of us is classified as white, some classified as black. That is what this racial caste system says we have to do. But I date who I want. You prefer I deny my white relatives? We are a family? and by the way, Irish people were brought to America, to be indigenous slaves and were suppose to be returned to Ireland after a period of servitude. Never happened. And after slavery they had signs in stores and factories that stated: No negros, jews or catholics need apply (Irish, Italians, Polish etc....). So they worked as coal miners, and railroads. So really? I not going to deny them or our family heritage because of your views. I say speak for yourself, not me or others. That is your choice. You want your rights and choices respected. Then start by respecting others. And not feeling you can speak for all black women.

[Steve]

Hey there is only one race the human race. But I'm the color you would call white and I do like women of color. But hey its all pink inside. And there's only one race.

Peace!

[Ron]

I would like to let you all know, that I like African American women. I was married to a white women for 15 years and I started to date black women after my divoice. I am a white guy and I can tell that the black women that I have dated out do all the white women that have been with. I found three things about black women they are more into the family, God and they are more careing. I have three lovely children with my ex wife and I would never doubt myself about having childern with the girl I am dating. I can also tell you that I am more in love with this women compared to any other women I dated. It is funny that when we are out in the public and people can tell how much that I love her, they look in my eyes. I am very proud of her.
I live in a big city but I came from a small town that there was not many African Americans lived there.
I have alot of friends that are black and I hate that they use the term "Jungle Fever". I can only tell you that I never had as much love for a person. I had never judge a person by the outside it is whaat is in the heart that counts.

[White Man Lover]

I am a blck female and I think that white guys are hot. I "HOPE" to find someone of my own race some day who believes what I do so that I can have a partner with whome I can build a happy life. However, if I cannot, I will be satisfied to have a man of any ethnicity, includeing white, that I can build a happy life with.
Some of these white guys are hot you know.

[OCgirl]

Wow a loaded topic, but glad to see the majority of you are color blind :>) I am a black female who dates white males. My preference is by enviroment more than anything. I grew up in an all white, high school, neighborhood, and town in a rural area. Like some, my step grandfather was 100% Irish and I saw his pic everday of my childhood, right next to his 1/2 black 1/2 indian wife, Gertie. My real father and mother are black but my sister, who has a different very dark skinned father, looks white! Now I live in Orange County which is also all white. I moved because of a job and guess I didn't notice there was no change. I think if I had grown up in LA in a more even demographic (there were 2 black famlies in my town and one other black child in my grade) I might be attracted to other races. As I meet others however, my attractions expand to other races. This is my experince, it is not driven by illusions of wealth or stability or fear of abuse as some might suggest, just environment.

[mgoncalves]

I agree with white man lover. White dudes are definitely hot. So are Asians, so are Blacks. Listen, if you're decent looking breathing with a penis I want to get to know you. It's that simple. Every ethnicity is beautiful, so the race of somebody shouldn't matter. All that should matter is if you like them and they like you.

[amber]

i am a white gurl..15 years old, and i am disgusted with whut people think of interracial realtionships, their are a lot of boys at my school (white boys) who say they will never touch me since i have been with black guys.but thats not the point any one who gets jealous when a person of the same race btu opposite sex dates out of their race is stupid. love is blind and i think interracial realtionships are great. it shows how far we have come in this country. so accept it just be proud of that. no one is trying to take "our men" or "our women" its just who ur attracted to. i hate it when i get critcized for dating a black guy whether it be from a black girl, white gurl, or white guy. i dont give shit to black girls or asian girls when they date white men. i am happy for them, it shows that other peoples thoughts dont affect their realtionships. but personally am most attracted to black men. but i will still date any other races. it doesnt matter what race u r, your human.