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March 16, 2005

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mikeca

Many years ago, when I was in college, the problem was mostly cultural.

Black men usually flattered women much more than white men. White women liked the flattery from Black men, so they sometimes dated them. On the other hand Black women were not impressed with white men, because they were use to being flattered more, and white men didn’t do that as much.

Wendy

I've seen black women with white men. But many, many more white women who don't seem to mind having a black partner. Ever heard that phrase, "once you go black you never go back?" It makes me snicker everytime.

Btw, all the generalizations about different races are tiresome and quite frustrating. Refer to the comment on More about Asian and white women, there's a quote about generalizations that expresses a very good point. Honestly, a lot of Asian girls who are growing up in this generation ARE big enough to fill the average cup size for a breast, Asian girls are capable of speaking up (as you have seen probably with the comments from others on your blog) and we can think out of the box and date men who aren't white, educated, and have IT jobs. I happen to think that my mother is a scary control freak, but you know, I'm still going to give other Asian mothers the chance to redeem themselves when I encounter them.


-From a girl who's "thick as cornbread", with a booty to match

Anti-Anonymous

a lot of Asian girls who are growing up in this generation ARE big enough to fill the average cup size for a breast

Cup sizes of bra sales in Asian lands tell a different story.

(Incedentially, the generalization about large chested Swedish women is a myth. Among European populations, the average Swedish woman has a smaller than average cup size. My guess is that this fantasy gained currency in the 60s when Sweden had a porn industry that was more robust than most of the rest of the West at the time.)

all the generalizations about different races are tiresome and quite frustrating.

Obscurantist nominalism about different races can also be tiresome and frustrating.

john jansen

as a young fellow in the 60s i argued that the racial problem in states would not be solved until intermarriage became widespread and commomplace.i argued that it should be viewed as america's manifest destiny for the current day.an interesting aside.....i worked in the trading room of a large financial organization for many yrs.there was a stunningly attractive young black woman there who set aflutter the hearts of many young fellows.(one of my colleagues quipped that any single fellow between 25 and 35 who was not actively pursuing her was latently homosexual.)anyway,if you had taken a poll of the males in the room she would have won overwhelmingly as the most attractive female in the room. what is the point of all this ,you ask.the point ,and some may say it is trite,is that 40yrs ago there is no way in the world that any black woman could ever be considered the most attractive by any group of white men. black had not yet become beautiful. so i view this as manifestation of social progress on one very small front. i dont have time to proof read so i apologize for any and all typos.jjj

Karen

I've seen black women with white men. But many, many more white women who don't seem to mind having a black partner. Ever heard that phrase, "once you go black you never go back?" It makes me snicker everytime.

Wendy, as an Asian woman who's dated a black man, I can relate to the stereotype that generates that phrase. Despite the un-disappointing experience it was, after the black guy I went back to dating white guys again. :) I don't really have an explanation for that.

Anti-Anonymous: I inferred that Wendy was referring to North-American Asian breasts. (Were you, Wendy?) Where there's an overall higher level of nutrition and body-fat content.

Mikeca: no kidding. I get more compliments when I visit a caribbean country like Jamaica for a week than I do in a whole year, living in North America. I'm sure part of it has to do with simply approaching someone rather than admiring from afar.

Wendy

Right. Karen, Asian girls in North America. But the average chest size has actually gone up from 34B to 36C because of...you guessed it..breast implants. But how is that possible if I also read that about 60% of women in America have A or B cups? There must some big breasts out there!

I just found that out after I made that comment. That makes it a lot harder for women to fill the average cup!

Black men being more complimentary has its flip side too--they don't just compliment or flatter 1 woman at a time, necessarily.

Wendy

I guess you're one woman who went back. :) I used to date white men a lot too, so if my bf and I were to break up, I'm actually not sure who I'd end up dating again...like I said, maybe a Chinese man. lol

Karen

Wendy - I hear you. For the novelty. ;)

Dan Schneider

It's not a sexual thing but a cultural thing. Black men are farther down the totem pole than black women, so many black men I've known prefer to 'trade up' for a white woman- even if it means Roseanne Barr over Halle Berry. It's perverse, but it's not a sexual thing per se, in most cases. Many black women resent this, esp. those who've lost lovers to white women. I worked with a number of white women who had black beaus, and the hate from black women was palpable.
White men, howeverm see black women as 'trading down'- and only go for black women who are 'successful- i.e.- college educated and careerists.
Of course, this is a generalization, nonetheles true. Consequently, you are more likely to see a good looking black man with an ugly and/or obese white woman while a white man, if with a black woman, will usually have a slim, buppy type on his arm.
Again, this is a broad statement, but in the main true. It also bespeaks far more than mere sexual attraction, and although it's perhaps sexist to say I recall an old saying growing up, and I grew up in a poor multicultural area: 'It don't matter the color of the skin, just what shape it's in.' DAN

Anti-Anonymous

Karen:

I inferred that Wendy was referring to North-American Asian breasts. (Were you, Wendy?) Where there's an overall higher level of nutrition and body-fat content.

Wendy:

Right. Karen, Asian girls in North America. But the average chest size has actually gone up from 34B to 36C because of...you guessed it..breast implants

I will bet either one of you $1,000 that at no point in the next 30 years will the cup size of the average Northeast Asian-American female be larger than the cup size of the average Caucasian-American female or the average Black-American female.

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